It might appear we’re stuck because of what’s happening in our writing. No matter what we try and do, circumstances hold us in the same place. It makes sense to say, ‘well, I’ve done everything I can,’ and conclude there’s nothing else you can realistically do. If a writer tells me they’ve done EVERYTHING I might say, ‘everything? Have you dressed up in a clown’s outfit and dragged an oversized kipper down the high street?’

We might have done everything the mind has given us as an option, but remember how the mind is like a computer, storing programs. This means those things we’ve done came from a place that believes it has done everything it can, so it will only provide possibilities that keep us trapped in the frustrating loop of ‘there’s nothing else I can do here.’ This is why being stuck is not inspiring at all, because it involves cutting ourselves off from any kind of creative thinking like, ‘okay, what if I did finally find a use for that oversized kipper I have in the freezer?’

I remember when I first read that we are only ever stuck in our minds. While I could agree with it on an intellectual level, I felt it didn’t apply to me. I wasn’t stuck in my mind. My writing was different – it wasn’t going my way and there was nothing I could do about it. Fact.

One of the most powerful components of having chosen to live a life that inspires me to write is to follow the principle ‘there are no exceptions’. Looking at a frustrating situation and challenging myself to see where I’m stuck in my mind, is far more stimulating than saying, ‘oh well, such is life.’ To say, ‘I’ve tried everything’ is to follow the mind’s core program to keep me in my comfort zone, when I have long outgrown those boundaries.

When I come to an impasse and feel the temptation of throwing up my arms and saying, ‘see, I truly did all I could!’ it takes practice to remind myself I can only ever be stuck in my mind, and that I could see a way through, if I want. No exceptions, remember?

If I’m always getting to a point where I say, ‘well, I tried everything’, how is that not being stuck?

It’s the same thought, coming up, again and again.

If I change that thought to, ‘I haven’t tried everything’, then I’m no longer stuck: I’m looking for what I haven’t yet tried. Don’t worry if you don’t know what that solution is – you will have only just come from a place where you’ve been telling yourself there isn’t one.

Give yourself time to adjust. Remember, any thoughts such as ‘this isn’t working’ or ‘I’m looking, but I don’t see anything’, is just the mind trying to take you back to the familiar place of ‘I’ve tried everything.’

It takes courage to make that mental shift because for a moment we asking to step into an unknown, which is why it feels safer to think, ‘oh, it’s easy for her’ or ‘yeah, but this won’t work for my situation’. But we know what these thoughts do. They never change. They keep us where we are. These thoughts come from the mind and the mind is trying to keep you in that comfort zone.

When we tell ourselves we’ve tried everything, we set up a reality, which the mind seeks to prove. We see the proof, we repeat the phrase. This is stuck: the belief there’s nothing we can do. When we tell ourselves we haven’t tried everything, we give our mind new co-ordinates. The brain reconfigures. We’re suddenly focused on the way out. It does come, and we’re often pretty surprised to discover door was there, all along.


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