Have you ever found yourself, wishing you had the confidence to write? Perhaps you’re dreaming about something you want to achieve with your writing and feeling like you’re going to need a lot of confidence to get there. Often, this can be the moment we give up. We interpret these thoughts as ‘proof’ we don’t have what it takes: we don’t have confidence, let alone a lot of it!
What if you had a different interpretation?
Firstly, if your mind is saying, ‘you’re going to need a lot of confidence to get there,’ in order to finish writing that novel, start submitting your work, or even to dedicate yourself to a new writing venture, then now you know exactlywhat you need.
When we work on our mindset it means that rather than hearing these thoughts and feeling discouraged, we look for a different way of seeing. This would mean, taking a step back, for a moment, and observing.
We might say, ‘okay, here’s where I want to get to, and here’s what I’m going to need to get there.’
Fear of Rejection
Many of the beliefs contained in our minds are related to our core evolutionary program of ‘staying alive’.
For the first several years of our life, we log all the situations that could have meant death:
- The way our mother reacted when we ran across the road…
- How the kids responded to us when we didn’t know the answer in class…
These feel like big, scary moments. We aren’t discerning at that age, which is why so many writers I work with are crippled by a fear of what others think, or terrified of making that running jump. The brain works hard to analyse the outcomes of situations and acts as a warning system.
It may be that the mind looks at the consequence of writing a novel, say, understanding that then a Literary Agent has to be found, which leads to an anticipation of rejection, and that ‘feels’ like death.
‘You’re going to need a lot of confidence,’ it then says because it has come to know the secret little ways that it can hold you back, keep you safe.
You stop and think, ‘oh, I guess if that’s something I need, it means I don’t have it.’
Find a Perspective that Serve You
If you find yourself, putting off taking action towards achieving your dreams, it means you’ve stuck by this interpretation, unable to see how this thought can be construed in a different way. This is one of the benefits of mindset work. It teaches the skill of looking at life with several different lenses, so that you can find a perspective that really serves you and the dreams you want to achieve.
How about taking this phrase, ‘you’re going to need a lot of confidence,’ and just for a moment, imagining you’ve been given a key to a door that leads to the life you want? You hold it in your hand – confidence
– this one thing that is necessary in order to achieve the happiness, or success, as a writer that you’ve always wanted.
Rather than seeing this phrase as proof that you don’t have what it takes, the phrase becomes a gift of the very thing you need. Not convinced? It may be that you find yourself saying, ‘but I don’t have a lot of confidence. I just don’t.’
Let’s go back to the door and the key. How do you know a locked door needs a key? Well, we’ve all experienced that. We know what doors are, we know what keys are. We come across a locked door and then we have a look for the key.
So, right in front of you is a locked door. On the other side is your dream. You’re going to need a key. How do you know the key is a lot of confidence? Here’s the thing: we know because we’ve experienced it. Whatever resource a client of mine says they need to achieve their goal can only ever be a resource they know and have experience of – otherwise, how would they know they needed it?
All it means is that we need to take a little time to remember. When was that moment in your life when you experienced confidence? Where were you? What were you doing? Find that key. It lies within. You used it once, which is how your mind knows this is exactly the key that you need now.
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